HOW TO BECOME A GOOD MUSLIM GIRL

Part 1 of 5: Forgiveness

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   Understand that all shall be well with Allah's will. Allah forgives minor sins for He is All-Understanding and All-Forgiving. Even if you feel that you are already too deep to become the good Muslim that you truly can be.
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   Discover where the influences causing you to turn your back on your religion comes from. Maybe you can trace back the cause to either family situations or friends that are leading you on the wrong path. Leave the friends. They will not be there on the Day of Judgement when you have to face Allah on your own. If it is because of family, it is a little more difficult. This is where the next steps will come in handy.
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   Forgive yourself and ask Allah (swt) for forgiveness for any sins you may have committed. You need to let go of past mistakes and work on improving the future. Whatever has happened is done. It is in the past and there is nothing you can do to change it or better it. The only thing you can do is forgive yourself and sincerely repent to Allah (swt) and sincerely ask Him for forgiveness. Use those negative experiences as motivation to get better and do good.
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   Notice where your weaknesses are and avoid them. This is not to say that you should run every time a guy comes near, but learn to lower the gaze and interact with them in a way that is mutual and respectful. Remember that Muslim women in the past also interacted with men in their society as business women, teachers, and scholars, and they were all well respected and admired; they did not have to flaunt their beauty to gain this respect or to feel confident or even to contribute to their societies. Remember that Allah (swt) is severe in punishment, but also the most forgiving and the most merciful. They are not people that you need in your life anyway.

Part 2 of 5: Displaying your devotion

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   Wear the hijab if you are truly devoted to turning over a new leaf and becoming the best Muslim girl that you can be. The hijab is not just a piece of cloth that covers hair, it covers and protects your whole self, including your mannerisms, speech, your gaze and your heart. it changes you mentally and spiritually. Think of it as a way for Allah azza wajjal to protect the women. As soon as you wear the hijab, hopefully, your whole perspective on self-respect and values will automatically change. In fact, women are not allowed to pray without the hijab since the hadith of the prophet Muhammad sallalahu alaihi wasalam reads "the prayer of a woman will not be accepted without the headcover". Hijab is mandatory, as explained in the Quran 33:59-60 women should cover to be recognized as part of the Muslim group, while in 24:30-31 women are told to pull down their headcovers and make them long enough to cover their breasts with a "khumur" which means "something which covers the head". The word is from the same root word for alcohol, since it is a substance when consumed covers and clouds the head and the mind.
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   Dress modestly. This does not mean that you have to look ugly or not stylish. Just be modest. Wear longer shirts and try not to wear clothes such as tank tops and shorts. Stay away from clothes that are too tight. Remember that it is obligatory to cover the whole body except the face and hands, which are recommended but not obligatory, although some scholars held the view that it is obligatory especially in the hanbali school of thought. if you truly believe according to the evidence it is obligatory, then go ahead and make an effort to cover your face with the niqaab and your hands with gloves as no harm can come from it. This also helps you to change your whole outlook on what is acceptable and what is not.

Part 3 of 5: Practicing Islam

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   Pray five times a day. Before you get on the prayer rug, learn what the prayer words mean to enhance your contemplation within prayer. If you do not speak Arabic, try to find some translated versions of the prayer words and take some time to read and understand what the words mean. Start making prayer a normal part of your day, the way eating is a need of ours, our spiritual food is prayers.
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   Read the Quran. Read the Quran and also try to read the translation of the Quran and truly try to understand its meaning. You can read the translation in English as well. Reading the Quran will help establish a useful relationship with Allah and will also allow you to understand how beautiful the religion is. Listening to it (you can find videos online) also makes you feel closer to Allah.
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   Learn more about Islam. Know what you have to do (which is called 'wajib' things) and what you can't do (haraam things). The Internet is a valuable source to search for Islamic rules and regulations and the punishments that apply if they are broken. Make sure to go on correct websites for the correct source of Islamic information. Shariah punishments may sometimes seem severe, but Muslims consider them to be a gift from Allah swt that protect society and guide the believers to follow His way.
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   Allocate a minimum amount of time each day to Islamic activities. For example, four hours for salah, Quran and Islamic studies will enable you to build up your relationship with Allah (swt) and make good progress towards acquiring knowledge. Remember that the five daily fardh salah are your top priority and you should form the framework of your daily routine around these.

Part 4 of 5: Keeping good company

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   Hang out with good friends. Going with the theme you may want to make friends who share your mission of being a good Muslim. If you are lucky enough, you might spot a Muslim girl your age. Be sure to make friends with a Muslim girl if you find one. You can tell her how you are trying to be a better Muslim, and she might be able to help!
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   Avoid negative influences, including old non-believing friends (as hard as it may be, the reward is well worth it) who may have had a bad influence or who bring out the negative characteristics in you. Even though the Shaytaan (the devil) can tempt us, it is our responsibility as Muslims to fight these temptations and urges by increasing our faith and spirituality.
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   Realize that there are many women who are Islamic lecturers. Gender is no problem here. Spread the message, no matter your gender.
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   Marry a good man who will be a good model to your children. Raising children with an evil man can traumatize them or they could take a bad example from him. Such a bad marriage will spread evil in the world. If you are already married with a bad person, divorce him and fight the hypocrite in the cause of Allah (swt).

Part 5 of 5: Perseverance

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   Take it day by day. If you make it a priority in your mind that you want to strive to be the best Muslim girl possible, you will achieve this goal without even realizing it! Every time you are about to do something, think: "Is this something good or religious?" If it isn't, don't do it! Simply remind yourself and be ready to stop yourself, just in case. Every single moment of every day must be devoted to pleasing Allah (swt).